Earlier this week I posted about the woes of “shoulding” and said we only do it because we’re getting something out of it.
I also alluded to an even deeper layer that I’ve come to believe is the bottom line: the ultimate root cause of our not-enough-ness, and how you can take it on to create a life of joy, peace, freedom, and ease.
Ready for that?
Let’s pick up where we left off: with the false belief that shoulding on yourself & all the ways you attempt to compensate for your not-enough-ness is keeping you safe … keeping you alive.
That’s really just your EGO fighting to stay alive.
Your ego is working 24/7 for self-preservation.
It’s pretending to “save” you, while it’s slowly killing the REAL You.
The You that is a divine, magnificent, brilliant extension of Source.
Wanna know why you (and pretty much every other human on the planet) are seeking “Freedom”?
It’s because:
Your ego has you in chains.
Your ego keeps lying to you about who you are & what’s possible for you.
It keeps pretending that it’s protecting you because it loves you and is looking out for your best interests. And you keep taking the bait. Staying trapped. Just like Rapunzel, locked away in the tower to be protected from the dangers of the world.
But deep inside, you know better.
It’s okay. Your ego is part of your humanity. Hating it or resisting it won’t make it go away – trust me on that one – I’ve tried ; ) Resistance only feeds it everything it needs to GROW.
The opportunity here is to embrace what is – to even feel love & compassion for it – while being rooted in your Truth. Your TRUE Self.
The natural, authentic state of your true Self is pure Freedom.
Bliss.
Joy.
Love.
Connection.
Perfection.
Yep. I said it. Perfection.
I don’t mean the ego-driven whacked-out view of “perfection” that our culture has created (and that multi-billion dollar industries are built on).
I mean Perfection as seen thru the eyes of your creator.
The perfection of all that you are, and all that you’re not, exactly as you are. Right now. In this moment. Pure LOVE.
Now, I’m not suggesting that you’re a hot mess of self-doubt & insecurity all the time. Far from it.
But in those moments when you’re shoulding and shaming and not enoughing, feeling broken, damaged, and disconnected from your Source – which alsoinherently leaves you disconnected from everyone else, maybe in some way feeling like you’re on the outside looking in, or perhaps like you’re surrounded by others but totally alone …
When all that mess is going on, you KNOW somethin’ ain’t right.
But the crazy thing is: you think that what ain’t right is YOU… and so the shame spiral continues.
SOMETHING needs to shift, or you’re just gonna keep getting hijacked by your ego as it tells you that YOU are the problem.
That YOU did it wrong. YOU blew it. YOU are not enough. YOU should do more. Have more. BE more.
As long as there is an ounce of life left in it (which is kinda necessary, cause it’s part of you) …
Your ego will keep fighting for it’s own survival.
This is why Mindset Mastery is not a one-and-done thing.
It’s NOT about ‘fixing a problem’ & never having it again.
It’s about being so aligned with your Source that nothing even occurs to you as a problem.
I’m gonna say that one again:
It’s about being so aligned with your Source that nothing even occurs to you as a problem.
For you to really believe on a cellular level that It’s ALL Perfect.
One brilliant opportunity after another to lead you to becoming your highest Self.
Your mission is to LIVE in full, authentic expression of who you are and what you’re here for … and to keep aligning with it now … and now … and now … and now.
And that can’t happen in the same space as shoulding, and shaming, and not-enoughing.
So, just as one example … when you feel fears that people will think you’re a greedy sleaze because you make offers that (gasp!) involve an exchange of money or because you’re about to step up to a whole new level of income, what would be possible if you could use that fear as an opportunity to remember who you are and what you’re here for?
Because when you own that, you KNOW the work you’re doing and the service you’re providing is exactly why you’re here and is worth every penny you charge (and way more!) … and then you can go make the impact you’re here to make.
I’ve got a pretty awesome free live training/coaching opportunity coming up May 28-31 to support you in doing exactly that:
For you to OWN all the awesomeness of who you are and what you’re here to do so you can make the impact you’re here to make … while living a life you LOVE, totally aligned with what matters most to you.
Cause this is not a dress rehearsal. This is your life. It’s time to really LIVE it.
All Things Possible,
~ Spencer